Know that you can have a beautiful, joyous Christmas even during these times. One of the first things Unplug the Christmas Machine by Jo Robinson and Jean Coppock Staeheli suggests is to gather as a family and recall exactly what makes Christmas so special. For some families it may be decorating the Christmas tree and that first time you turn on the Christmas lights. Or a drive in the family car to see neighbors' homes decorated for the season. Gather ideas from your family to help discover exactly what would create the best Christmas for all of you.
Realize that your Christmas may have to scale down from original plans. If your family was planning on celebrating Christmas in Hawaii, this may not be the year if Mom and Dad haven't received end of the year bonuses or someone has lost their job. Even less lofty goals, like getting a new giant screen television may be on the chopping block in many households. Try coming up with an alternative for your family celebration or gift and know that there will always be another time.
Children are pretty darned smart when it comes to understanding when a family is in trouble. They can often read the signs if there is financial trouble. Mom or Dad is a little short tempered. Or there are less trips to the movies or other "usual" activities. Parents should understand that children are often less concerned about what gifts they receive, but simply want to know that their family is going to be okay. Everything you can do to reassure them and make their Christmas as regular and typical as possible is best. This means serving a nice holiday meal and giving them a gift or two to open. Most families -- even during tough times -- can manage to reach this goal.
Be on the lookout for inexpensive and free Christmas activities. Your church and local community center should have family Christmas activities that you can bring your children to celebrate the season. This is a great way to augment their holiday activities. Most churches have a Christmas Pageant which children enjoy appearing in. Or children can sing in the church choir for Christmas.
Trust that the retail stores are looking for you to buy -- the bargains will be there. Every parent wants to be able to provide for their child, and this includes the "hot" toy they say they want this Christmastime. While you may not be able to give them as many toys this year, know that every retail store is even more concerned about the Recession as you are. They have bills to pay, a store to keep open, employees to pay. Stores are closing every day. Many stores are holding doorbuster type of deals simply to get you in the door. Learn to be a savvier shopper and investigate which store has the toys you need -- and get there early!
Nathaly Dedeyan is Co-owner of http://www.YourChristianSpace.com, a social networking website specifically for Christian families. A safe, warm and nurturing place to connect with others. YourChristianSpace.com is an online community where families can have fun, meet new people, hear great music and play fun games. http://www.yourchristianspace.com
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